How to Deal with Hurt Feelings

[Petunia]

Aslam 3likuk all brothers and sisters

wish you all now in good and fine mood

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Harboring hurt feelings can be emotionally detrimental.
This is especially true if we take offenses personally.
We need to learn to deal with hurt feelings
to be at peace with ourselves.

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1- Stay calm when your feelings are hurt and
allow time for yourself to completely cool off.

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2- Think before you speak, or you may lash out
with words that you can't retract and regret the consequences.
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3- Prevent misjudging by not presuming
the other person's intention. You may pass judgment incorrectly
and make the situation worse.
Ask yourself if the person's intent was
deliberate or if it's unintentional.


4- Walk away from situations that
may cause you to retaliate or seek revenge.

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5- Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes
and understand why he acted the way he did.
It's a lot easier to forgive when you can understand
the reason for someone's behavior.

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6- Approach the person that offended
you and express to her that she hurt your feelings
by her behavior, actions or words.
It's healthier to resolve the concern than to let it sit
and debilitate you. However, be careful how you phrase
what you say so that you do not appear to be antagonistic.

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7- Choose to be not offended and avoid self-pity;
you are only hurting yourself.

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8- Forgive, overcome oversensitivity
and seek to be at peace with yourself.
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9- Pray for the Allah to let go of hurt feelings

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hope you the happiness for ever

[G L O R Y]

May Allah Keeps You Safe

Our Sis. pink-pen

You're Absolutely Right

What If the Situation Is Tense To You .. Don't Make it Worse
And No Matter What It Is .. It isn't really Worth it

Very Nice Subject

Glad To Be Here

God Be With You All Times

[M.o_o.N]

pink pen

I looove it , this topic is a great answer for many questions in my mind .

I mean whenever I am hurt I hurt others around me and I tried hiding and forgeting but Duh that wasnt useful . Just nowadays I manged my flooded feelings lol

Lots and lots of thanks Miss pink ^.^

[Petunia]

our brother جلوري

yes brother you are right nothing deserves to get angry or whatever..you make it worse if
hurt someone's feelings even though he did that to you just try to forgive and don't treat him badly as he did to you
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brother really apprecaited your visting my topic and i'm glad because you liked it

may Allah keeps you save too thanks

[Petunia]

Reona

happy to see your reply really that engourages me always...why? i don't know loool (31

lool that's nice you knew the correct way what could you do when you hurt someone

about me you can say i think till now i never ever hurt anyone's feelings

and i hope so other people hurt me alot sometimes i trey to seek revenge

just in thinking .suddenly i change my mind..i'm a poor girl lool

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really thank you sweety for fisiting me topic

[M.o_o.N]

pink pen

Yeah sweety I got strong feeling that I want to bite someone lol
But because I am polite i cant hehe

I like your topics and we are lucky in Saudi English to have you with us ^_^

Keep it dear :x

[motyri]

well , for me i would smash his face without even thinking about it

lol keep it up

[Petunia]

Renoa

you got strong feeling that you want to bite someone....loool you are so kind dear

cause you just bite someone nothing els such slap or punch him/her
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no dear i'm lucky her to have you all here in Saudi Engish .i'm really enjoing joining you all

thanks dear again
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brother motyri

OOO my God that's soo aggressive (smash his face)
but you know what some peolpe

we think they deserve that especailly if they hurt you extremly

but the end we try to just forget it

thanks brother for sharing and giving your opinion glad to be here

[maxima]

pink-pen
thanks a lot
nice topic

[ريما الحسين]

! great and great and great advices

you are rihgt

thx alot lovely friend

Go ahead

[Petunia]

maxima

you are welcome happy cause you liked it

thans for passing

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ريما الحسين

miss you lovely friend

you are always welcome dear thank you for visiting my topic

for you all

[:lost lady:]

That's a great topic sweety
I love it
May Allah bless U sis
thanks for sharing us

[PATCHI]

I wish if I descover these great lines earlier

Thanks a lot for such good topic my dear

[Petunia]

lost lady

well thanks dear that's nice you lived it

thanks dear for sharing your reply

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PATCHI

You are welcome dear any time really appreciat your visiting my topic sis

[postgraduate]

Pink-pen

Throughout our relations and being in touched with others may cause some misunderstanding points .According to it , it is not necessary to consider such misunderstanding as a negative thought about us . Such opinions or thoughts which we sometimes see as a bad thing represent only those who adopted them ,they ( I mean those opinions )have nothing to do with who we are.So, Why do we always blame ourselves ? We have self-confidence .

[Petunia]

brother pasgraduarte

yes you are right sometimes there is a misunderstanding in some point at that time we shouldn't consider it as a negative feeling may be he/she didn't mean what we thought that's won't be fair at all...this a point onther point is there are some people hurt you in a deliberate act may be cause they hate you or something like that at that time what should you do?
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thanks brother for sharing your opinion really glad to be here

may Allah bless you