How to Be Popular at Work

[enigma]

For years we've heard that it's more important to be respeted than liked.Yet study after study is proving conventional wisdom wrong--- finding instead that the road to success is more often a series of popularity contests

Research at Columbia University shows that jobs,pay raises and promotions are more apt to be awarded based on a worker's charisma than on his or her academic background or professional qualifications

A leading firm in the States found that during corporate downsizing,hiring and firing decisions boil down to how well people are liked by their supervisors. " It's not enough just to do a good job; you have to be likeable in the eyes of your employer, " says the company's president

The good news is likeability is a skill that can be learned. Researchers have unlocked the secrets to having a magnetic personality

When people encounter you, they subconsciously ask themselves four questions that determine your likeability or " Likeability Factors ". First they seek friendliness.Then,they ask themselves if you are relevent to them.Next,they ponder whether you have empathy for them.Finally,they ask themselves if you're "real" that is,authentic and honest.If the answers to those questions are affirmative,you receive a high Likeability Factor

To up your " L - Factor " here are four - step process


Step One: Increase Your Friendliness
Your friendliness is a function of your ability to communicate openness and welcome to others.Make an effort to greet people cheerfully,smile often and adopt a friendly mindset that you communicate through positive body language and words

Step Two: Raise Your Relevance
Your relevance has to do with your connection to others' interests,wants and needs.The more relevant you are,the more people like you.Relevance has three levels: o

Contact. The odds are,likeability will increase with "functional distance," such as sitting next to someone at a party or living nearby


Mutual Interest. Having common interests or experiences makes people feel validated and generates a sense of community and personal respect

Value. Relevance is strongest when the value you offer meets another person's wants and needs.This produce positive attitudes in the person's mind and contribute to your allure
To become more relevant,find ways to connect with the interests and needs of others.Know what they're passionate about outside of work.Be aware of their emotional needs and willing to respond to them

Step Three: Show Empathy
Your empathy reflects your capacity to see things from another person's point of view and to experience his or her feelings yourself.When you connect with someone's feeling and they believe you're "with them" it delivers a psychological hug. Ask yourself do I: o

Know how that person is feeling about his or her life situation these days? o

Understand what it must feel like to perform the person's tasks day after day-- be it caring for an elderly relative at home or managing a heavy workload? o

Share the same emotions about key issues? o

By making yourself more emotionally available,your connection with people ---and your likeability --- will grow dramatically


Step Four: Keep It Real
Realness is consistency between your beliefs and actions.To be true to yourself and others,you need to: o


Do what you want to be doing in life
Live with purpose
Commit to the principles of your work
Be the same person on the outside as you are on the inside
Be direct and honest with others


The more you live by your values,the more your perceived realness will elevate.Conversely,if people decide you're not real,they will discount your frindliness,relevance and empathy-- and probably dislike you

Basically,likeability comes down to creating postive emotional experience in others.When you make others feel good,they tend to gravitate to you

By Kate Lorenz " A Career Builder " o







In short, the writer is trying to say that in order to gain people's love and respect at the same time " BE HUMANE" o

[Aseel]

Be Humane

Have a smile on your face

Treat others nicely

Show respect


And so many things you mentioned in your topic


Thanx alot dear supervisor for the useful topic

It's really benefital

[Mr.X]

[grade="8B0000 FF0000 FF7F50"]I think if U can do the first three steps .....and Keep it real(4th step) ....is the hard thing !!specially with relations

if U succes to do it.....U `ll win the popularity

Nice advises.....from nice pen

Thanks

Mr.X[/grade]

[PATCHI]

Do what you want to be doing in life
Live withe purpose
Commit to the principles of your work
Be the same person on the outside as you are on the inside
Be direct and honest with others

LUCKY STAR
It's not a method for popularity at work,It's a method of " life "
Thanks alot for such golden posts

[enigma]

Dear Aseel

I think the few things you listed are the keys to a better understanding of the people that we're forced sometimes to socialize


I'm glad that it appealed to you sister

[enigma]

Dear Mr.X

What you said brother is true


Being direct and honest with everyone could put us in troubles with those who only want to hear what they want

But

I think if we manage to live by our own values regardless of what others might think , we'll be real not only to ourselves but to others

Thanks for passing by and commenting

[enigma]

Dear PATCHI

It is dear

If we apply the above steps into our relations with people we see not only at work

Things would have been greater for all of us

It is a philosophy of life as you said


Thanks for passing by dear

But,don't you think that the title you gave me is way beyond what I deserve

[PATCHI]

I think not

http://www.saudienglish.net/vb/showt...t=16001&page=3

The one who take care of me as you did,deserve that name
The one who encourage me as you did, deserve that name
the one who name me MY SIS, deserve that name
THANK YOU FOR BEING MY LUCKY STAR

[Meant To be]

So beneficial thread

achieving these for tips aren't that easy, unless we strive to accomplish our goal which is being popular at work

I think the time has come to me to follow'em as I'm about to train for getting a job in 2 weeks from now, wish me luck

Dear sister, your topic will be a truely guide to me at the work field

I'm so grateful for that

Thanks a million dear sister

[enigma]

PATCHI

I still find it too much for me

But thanks anyway.Your words mean alot to me


























Ment To Be

Best of luck dear brother

I'm sure that you'll have no trouble being a popular person at work as I think you are in life